Calvin Desir, Sydney Aiello, and Jeremy Richman all died by suicide the same week. These individuals suffered severe trauma in their lives which were all connected to mass shootings. Desir and Aiello were survivors of the Parkland shootings, while Richman was the father of one of the 20 first-graders killed in the 2012 Newton shooting.… Read More Surviving Survivor’s Guilt
It’s April, and it’s Sexual Assault Awareness month! Three years ago I wrote a post about Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). I heard about EMDR from my high school friend who is a sexual assault survivor, and she found that EMDR was particularly helpful in dealing with her past childhood sexual abuse and college… Read More EMDR-A toolbox for PTSD
Many people, including myself, at one time or another, have suffered cognitive distortions. Cognitive distortions are ways that our mind convinces us that a situation, event, or object isn’t right. These thoughts augment negative thinking or emotions- convincing us that our thoughts are real when in fact they make us feel terrible about ourselves. When I… Read More Cognitive Distortions
I’m prone to ruminating on thoughts that can make me and my loved ones feel like shit for weeks on end. It’s a habit that has decreased since I started therapy at the age of fifteen. In my earlier years, much of my negative thoughts focused on romantic relationships that ran its course. Now much… Read More Cognitive Reframing is Important!
One thing I dislike when people give me advice is the “Righting Reflex.” The “righting reflex” is the urge to correct something or someone. Here are some examples of when people use the “Righting Reflex”: You make a mistake and your friend is like, “Why didn’t you prepare before?” My response is often, “Well, shit… Read More The Righting Reflex
My vent on common sense… Read More Common Sense
Eye for an Eye Does an eye for an eye make the world go blind? I question this after the recent deaths of Philando Castile, Alton Sterling, and five officers of the Dallas police force. In this case, I felt revenge wasn’t an appropriate response, it made race relations worse and muddled the message of… Read More Eye for an Eye: Revenge
Mental Illness and Mass Shooting In the United States, there is a vast narrative that mental illness and mass shooting go hand in hand. While it may be a factor for someone to go into a mass shooting, I don’t think it’s the main reason. Jonathan Metzl, a Professor of Sociology and Psychiatry at Vanderbilt… Read More Is Mental Illness the Cause of Gun Violence?
What Attracks Individuals to Terrorism? In light of the Paris Attacks and the San Bernardino mass shootings, I ask, “What attracts individuals to terrorism?” In the study, “The Mind of a Terrorist: A Review and Critique of Psychological Approaches,” Jeff Victoroff explores four psychoanalytic psychological theories to terrorist behavior. They are identity theory, narcissism theory,… Read More Mind of a Terrorist
Dear Resentment, I do not like you. You hurt me physically and emotionally. You give me self-doubt and make imaginary enemies for me to fear. I am embarrassed by the destruction you caused for my heart and mind. You tricked me into thinking that something is going to be taken away from me if someone… Read More Shoo Shoo Resentment