What About the Survivors?

Unfortunately, mass shootings are frequent in the United States. There are many variables to why people commit mass shootings. It can range from revenge, allegiance to an organization, passion, mental illness, or just pure dickery.

I’ve noticed is that when this tragedy happens, it often focuses on the perpetrators and the dead victims, instead of those who have survived.

Why is this?

I like to think it’s because survivors don’t have the shock value as dead people and killers. Survivors may not have the “shock” value as the deceased victims and mass shooters, but their stories are still important.

What are the Survivors?

Secondary victims are people who witnessed people getting killed, the ones in the building when the shooting took place, the wounded, they were first responders, or they were people that lived near the vicinity where the shooting took place. It’s easy for these people’s stories not to be told since their experiences were not the “main” event. Even though these people lived, they were still affected by the massacre.

Why Survivors Experience Trauma

Traumas, such as mass shootings, cause long-term distress because the person experiences a threat to their survival. It also challenges their positive assumptions about the world. These beliefs can include that world is safe and predictable and that society is just and meaningful. It can also include that good people experience positive outcomes, and the world and people are inherently good

These beliefs may not necessarily be right, but they allow humans to be psychologically healthy and adaptive. The assumption that everything is safe will enable people to work, date, raise loved ones, care for others, and be innovative. A tragedy such as a mass shooting puts all of these beliefs into question and may make individuals feel as if the world turned on them. People may try to differentiate themselves from the victims by telling themselves I’ll carry a gun with me at all times, That person is a different color, are they a terrorist? As evidence from the media, having these fear-based assumptions can lead to victim-blaming and lack of empathy.

Testimonials

Mary Reed

There are testimonials from secondary victims of mass shootings who still feel the emotional effects of the tragedy they experienced.

Mary Reed was one such victim. She was shot three times at the 2011 Tuscan event for then-Representative Gabby Giffords. Reed has said, in an interview with Rolling Stones Magazine, that people have told her, “ I don’t want to speak with her–she was only injured. I want to speak with someone who was truly affected.”

Reed attended the event with her husband and two children and shot while shielding her daughter from gunfire. She now lives with a bullet lodged in a nerve bundle near her spine, causing intractable chronic pain. Every time Reed hears of a new shooting, it makes her think of how society focuses on the killers and those killed, rather than those who are injured and now disabled. After the Tuscan shooting, she found it difficult to find mental health support for her children. She has a clear memory of her son picking out the brains and blood off from her sister’s long blonde hair. The shooting also disrupted her sense of personal safety and control. The unfortunate part was that neighbors and friends had no idea how to interact with the family. Reed says that she remembers people saying, “Oh yeah, you were only injured.”

Kileen Shootings

On October 16, 1991, a man drove his truck into a cafeteria in Killeen, Texas and proceeded to shoot and kill 24 customers and injure many others. Two months after the shooting in Killeen, one survivor states, “I can’t sit in a restaurant with my back to the wall since then. I have to be facing the door, able to see everything in the room.” Another survivor says that when someone enters that room, his eyes focus on the person’s hands, involuntarily scanning for a weapon.

Melbourne Shootings

On December 8, 1987, nine people died, and five more wounded by a gunman in a city building in Melbourne, Australia. Some employees barricaded themselves in their offices fearing for their lives. After the gunman was captured, he broke free and threw himself out a window to his death. A researcher collected self-reported data from 447 employees 4,8, and 14 months post-shooting–this was the trauma group. Employees from a different building in Melbourne served as a contrast group. The trauma group scored much higher than the contrast group on intrusion, avoidance, depression, anxiety, and other psychological issues. Even though symptoms lessened over time, there were still many people in the trauma group that were still affected.

These testimonials show that even if you were wounded or a witness to a mass-shooting, there are still long-term effects.

Self-Care if You are Survivor of a Mass Shooting

If you’re a victim of a mass shooting, there are important things you can do:

  1. Recognize and Accept your Feelings: Don’t ignore your feelings because it’s not going to work in the long term. Instead, feel your sadness, anger, and fear. Try to understand your feelings and roll with it.
  2. Practice Radical Acceptance: the truth is, the world isn’t completely safe, and not everything is within your control. It’s okay to compartmentalize, and just focus on you.
  3. Don’t be paranoid about everything: A traumatic experience such as a mass shooting can make everything seem very dangerous. In reality, many people can go to theaters, music festivals, and work without the fear of something going off on them.
  4. Have healthy coping mechanisms: Talk to trusted friends and family, volunteer your time, write, and do fun activities. Do healthy things that will help you cope with your experience.
  5. Make life Meaningful: Despite the trauma, focus on the positive and what you can do to make the world a better place. Bad things will always happen, but that doesn’t mean you can’t speak up about social injustice or do good deeds in your community.

How to Help Someone Who Has Survived a Mass Shooting

If you know a secondary victim, this is what you can do:

  1. Listen with empathy. Don’t offer advice unless asked.
  2. Look for a Community Crisis Response of some kind.
  3. Point to some internet resources such as The Rebels Project.  The project was founded by survivors of the Columbine High School Shooting after the 2012 Aurora theater shooting. This organization provides support for those who have gone through a similar experience.

Conclusions

I’ve never experienced a mass shooting. I can only imagine the emotional rollercoaster that survivors go through in the aftermath. What I can do is listen to a survivor with compassion and empathy.

Information from: 

https://thelily.com/heres-what-life-is-like-after-you-survive-a-mass-shooting-76cde95c3372

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201710/coping-the-psychological-trauma-mass-shooting

PTSD Research Quarterly

https://www.rollingstone.com/politics/features/what-happens-to-survivors-of-mass-shootings-like-las-vegas-w508795