I’m a huge fan of CW’s surprise hit, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. The show stars Rachel Bloom as Rebecca Bunch, a young successful New York lawyer who decides to move to West Covina, California after a chance meeting with her high school summer ex-fling, Josh Chan (Vincent Rodriguez III). Moving to another city, especially a place you’ve never visited, for a lost love sounds ridiculous, but for Rachel Bloom, it’s an opportunity for adventure and happiness.
I relate to Bunch because I’ve been the “crazy” ex-girlfriend. I’ve sent angry letters and e-mails to exes and their girlfriends and always regretted it. I felt that if I sent the email or letter, I’d feel better, but I never did. People say don’t let your emotions get the best of you because it gives the other person power. I never realized the importance of the sentiment until after the hundredth angry email I sent to an ex.
Furthermore, I Facebooked “stalk” my exes and their girlfriends’ pages to see what they were up to. Was he having a better time with her than me? Was she prettier than me? Did he get his due desserts? Was she having a miserable time with him? Why is he treating her better than me? All of these questions I had from looking at my exes and their girlfriends’ Facebooks always filled me with dread. I did it because I wanted closure and a way to get over them quickly. I thought if I looked at their Facebook pages and was reminded that they moved on would help me move on. The thing is the healing process does things on its own timeline and rushing it only makes the process slower.
Bunch is an overachiever, has with an overcritical mom, and is not used to rejection. I’m similar. I may not have gone to Harvard and Yale like Bloom, but I did go to a university and graduate within three years. My parents are over critical and have high expectations of me and that has made me insecure about myself despite my achievements. Like Bloom, I feel validated by external successes and when someone rejects me I feel the need to undo their rejection. I think, Why are you rejecting me? I’m successful! I went to college! I’m cute and likable! I’ve learned the hard way that you can’t please everyone.
The lovely thing about Rebecca Bunch is that despite her flaws and mishaps, she learns her lesson whether it’s realizing that she loves Josh Chan or that she doesn’t need a man to feel complete. Crazy Ex-Girlfriend is a wonderful show that is sweet and hilarious at the same time, and I highly recommend people to watch it.
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