I struggle with both Inferiority Complex and Superiority Complex. Inferiority Complex, according to Dictionary.com, is an unrealistic feeling of general inadequacy caused by actual or supposed inferiority in one sphere, sometimes marked by aggressive behavior on compensation. Superiority Complex is an attitude of superiority that conceals actual feelings of inferiority and failure.
In elementary school, I competed with my friend, Torts, in everything. I wanted to get a higher grade in English than her, be ahead of her in the Reading Comprehension packets we had, be socially more aware than her, etc. When she received a lower grade on a test or assignment, I felt that I was better than in her, than if she received a higher grade than me, I would berate myself for not receiving a higher score. The petty competition I had with her continued until we went to different high schools. Now she’s in her first year of law school at the East Coast and seems to be doing well.
Another time where my frenemies got the best of me was when I had the phone app, Whisper. Whisper is an app where people blast their secrets to the world and have a picture in the background to accompany it. You are also able to chat with the person who posted the secret. The app became addicting because I trolled people and showed inaccuracies in their argument. There was one secret where I argued with the poster, and then realized that my argument was illogical. I was mad at myself because I was always like “winning” against the anonymous poster.
Here are tricks to keep my Inferiority and Superiority Complex in check.
- Remind myself that at the end of the day everyone is flawed. –Keeps me in check that everyone has problems even it may not seem like it.
- Remind myself that being “superior” or “inferior” are subjective precepts, not objective ones.
- To write down what I’m grateful for when things do not go my way.
- Keep a positive quotation book to help me see the big picture.
- Remind myself that being competitive isn’t the healthiest mindset.
- At the end of the day we aren’t invincible. We weaken and eventually turn into worm meat.