I apologize for not blogging on Sunday, it has been a busy weekend from visiting my cancer ridden uncle to watching Guardians of the Galaxy.Lately, I’ve been lamenting on my lack of female friends and not being invited to certain events. At the end of the day, I realized I have high expectations that others may not have, and that I have to managed it better.
I’ve been trying to reconnect with my childhood friends. It’s been difficult because everyone has their own responsibilities and schedules. My expectation I had for them was that I thought they would be able to make time for me because I would have made time for them. Unfortunately, that’s not the case. I’m learning that people have their own reasons for not being able to make time to hang out and catch up. It hurts, but I can’t take it personally. I lost contact with them for a long time, so its no surprise that I’m not on their radar. They weren’t on mine for a long time too.
Another expectation I had was I thought I was going to be invited to a birthday and a wedding. I wasn’t and I felt butthurt. Like before, there are reasons why I wasn’t invited. I want to ask but according to the advice of my best friend and boyfriend, it could come out as an attack and they could get defensive. I’ve been known to inadvertently and purposely attack people with my verbal expressions, and that often hasn’t gone well. So I’ve decided to keep my mouth shut.
I’m learning my expectations should be managed on a case by case basis. It’s not bad to have them, it reminds others to respect your time and space. Also, it helps you to be mindful of others’ time and space as well.