Lamenting My Lack of Female Friends
Lately, I’ve been sad over my lack of female friends and not being invited to specific events. At the end of the day, I realized I have high expectations that others may not have, and that I have to manage it better.
Trying to Reconnect
I’ve been trying to reconnect with my childhood friends. It’s been difficult because everyone has their responsibilities and schedules. My expectation for them was that I thought they would be able to make time for me because I would have made time for them. Unfortunately, that’s not the case.
I’m learning that people have their reasons for not being able to make time to hang out and catch up. It hurts, but I can’t take it personally. I lost contact with them for a long time, so its no surprise that I’m not on their radar. They weren’t on mine for a long time too.
My Lack of Invitation
Another expectation I had was I thought a childhood friend was going to invite me to her wedding. I wasn’t and I felt butthurt. Like before, there are reasons why I wasn’t invited. I wanted to ask but according to the advice of my best friend and boyfriend, it could come out as an attack and they could get defensive.
I’ve been known to inadvertently and purposely attack people with my verbal expressions, and that often hasn’t gone well. So I’ve decided to keep my mouth shut.
Case By Case Basis
I’m learning that my expectations for my friends should be managed on a case by case basis. It’s not wrong to have them; it reminds others to respect your time and space. Also, it helps you to be mindful of others’ time and space as well.